It was the question I heard time and time again as a child. My brother always knew he wanted to be a “Back Doctor”. I guess people thought that was a funny response so it was literally always his only one. I’d say he came pretty close since now he is a Chiropractor. My sister’s answer was always the same as well, “A Vet”, she would respond simply. She loved animals but did not love school, so, she has since changed route.
I was the only one who had no answer. From a very young age I knew I wanted to help people…but what is that?? There was no simple job title or goal to set, just this vague direction or idea, and it was all I knew.
Years and decades of responding with a defeated “I don’t know” paired with a shrug, I was pursuing a degree in Psychology. Psych 101 lead me to believe that this was the first step to unraveling my mystery title. At the same time my mom was moving from my parents’ home to her new bachelorette pad and when she was signing her apartment lease the office manager offered me a job. Me. Not my grown, experienced with working, Mother… or my barely younger than I sister, Me. I thought, “Sure. I’ll take an adult’s hourly rate plus commission”. I saw everyone else in the office and more specifically their age and qualifications, and felt precocious. Obviously, sales wasn’t exactly “helping” anyone other than my own college budget, but I was helping people get a new pad, and that felt cool.
A handful of other sales, retail, and student event planning jobs later, and I was getting close to snagging that coveted piece of paper that was surely a map to my future position of helping people, right? WRONG. My first job out of college was at a Private Sector of the Kansas Child Protective Services. Talk about helping people!! I was going to get to help the sweetest and cutest kind of people! Wrong Again. I was actually going to get them homes outside of their abusive biological ones and put them where they knew no one and begged to go back to their unspeakable previous domestic quarters only to have their parents complete a simple series of nonsense and get their favorite “punching bag” back. This was a seriously hard job, and I definitely did not feel that it was what “kid-me” meant by “helping people”.
I had my first abuse victim lose their life. I cried. A lot. I resigned. I moved back to Texas.
I worked as a dance instructor and assistant sales manager at a Buckle but I knew these were just baby stepping stones to my BIG HELPFUL Future. A few months of that and I found myself back in the hands of a totally skewed government agency. The “Health and Human Services”. “A few years here and I can get hired ANYWHERE”, I told myself. 4 years to the day and I left that world for a more corporate experience. I felt it was a step in the right direction, since now instead of doling out food stamps to generations of ungrateful recipients with a team of faded and jaded, resentful women, I’d be working with a young, gorgeous and vibrant team of ladies who get people jobs! I loved that job and my team but the company had some pretty cutthroat morals, and I didn’t fit that mold. So just weeks before finding out if I would actually bag that “Rookie of the Year” award my supervisors had been tracking me for, I was let go for interviewing for a less savage team and position. A few years of making more money than I’d ever believed I was capable of and I realized I had severely lost sight of my childhood knowledge of what I was meant to do in this life. Unfortunately, helping businesses secure advertising space did not feel like helping people, no matter how I contorted the role.
I quit. I cried. I thought I had a plan to establish a non-profit, and I failed.
Funny thing, at some point my long time Chiropractors began saying they needed “A Meggan”. A hireable one. As in one who believed in their culture as strongly as I did, could communicate the message so they could do their parts, and who wasn’t already employed. I accepted their opportunity without even thinking. I meant it immediately! Any skill set I possessed that they needed, I knew it was helping people so I was ready! Almost two years later and I can finally recognize my goal has always been to Serve and Support My Family, My Community, and This World; and I’m doing it! It hasn’t always been easy and we have all joked about going back to steady mindless positions but I know we are making a difference, and I finally feel like I know what I want to BE. A Fully Connected, Life-Loving, and Life-Changing Part to a Whole Weave of Wonderment and World Change.
“If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief”
To be UNBOUND means to be in the TRUEST expression of your AUTHENTIC Self. Who you truly ARE. Not who you are TOLD to be, not who you were CONDITIONED to be, not who you are EXPECTED to be, not who you think you SHOULD be, not who OTHERS think you are. Your Authentic Self is WHO YOU ACTUALLY ARE.
We all have a UNIQUE signature in this world. A UNIQUE Mathematical Equation that places everyone on their own UNIQUE path. That’s what is being expressed when people say or feel that they have found their PURPOSE or PASSION. It is being drawn toward the things that FUEL you, the things that light you up! Life is SUPPOSED to light you up! That’s how you know you are living in your AUTHENTIC NATURE!
Have you ever heard the saying “Your vibe attracts your tribe” ? If you look around you or within you and feel assaulted, that may mean you have been living INAUTHENTICALLY. This doesn’t necessarily mean that the people around you have to change. They are responding to your INAUTHENTIC nature. That doesn’t feel good because it’s not SUPPOSED to feel good!
As WE change, the people AROUND us change. As we become more AUTHENTIC, the people and things that do not resonate with our authentic nature are REPLACED by the people and things that DO!
What if we had our OWN UNIQUE MAP embedded within our being that is guiding us toward the PEOPLE, PLACES, and THINGS meant for us so that we can make the GREATEST IMPACT on the WORLD?
And when we try to FORCE impact on those things that are NOT uniquely for us, we struggle so we know something is NOT RIGHT?
Wouldn’t life be MORE amazing if WE knew what was BEST for us? If WE knew what our PURPOSE was? If WE knew the direction we needed to go?
Our Authentic Self DOES know all these things! So it’s time to get to KNOW our SELF UNBOUND!
“There is more wisdom in your body than your deepest philosophy.” – Frederich Nietzsche
Close your eyes and imagine the person or pet you care about the most in this world. Notice how your body feels when you think of them. Does your breath flow freely, maybe your heart expands and a smile appears on your face? Now imagine you just found out they have a terminal illness. Do you notice a shift in your body? Maybe a contraction in the chest, or a shallowing of your breath. Muscle tightness or a drop in your stomach?
The shift in your body was created by your nervous system. When there is a lot of information coming in at once and we don’t have enough energy to process it all at the same time while keeping our heart beating, lungs breathing, kidneys running, etc., the nervous system creates a contraction of awareness. In Chiropractic, we call this a subluxation. It’s protecting you, making sure you have the energy resources you need to stay alive.
This subluxation often is accompanied by pain. A signal to your brain, reminding you that there is information that needs to be processed once the immediate overwhelm is gone. There’s wisdom to be gained and changes need to be made in your life accordingly.
Often times in our society, we are taught to dis-like pain. To want it gone. Force it out of existence. We push on it, we stab it with needles, we even try to cut it away. We think we know more than the wisdom in our body and something must have gone “wrong” or off the radar from the intelligence that resides within us and all around us. This puts us at war with… ourselves. Our own wisdom is willing us to connect and we are pushing away.
What if we opened up to our pain and the wisdom that resides within it? What if we became more energy efficient in our lives so that we had energy to spare to process the information that’s waiting for us? What if we claimed MORE energy?
Connecting back to ourselves, our wisdom, our nature, our purpose, is where all the keys to these shifts reside. Where have we been ignoring the signs when they have been all around us? When have we been pushing when we were being asked to be still? When have we chose not to feel when our body is asking us to move emotion? Where have we not asked for help because we have not trusted?
It’s time to end the war with ourselves and come back home to the wisdom that made the body. It’s the same wisdom that heals it. The further you are from something, the less effect you can have on it. What lessons does your body hold for you? Lean in, move closer and let’s make this year an intimate one.
“Unexpressed emotions tend to stay in the body like small ticking time bombs, they are illnesses in incubation.” – Marilyn Van Derbur
Emotions are simply ENERGY in MOTION. They are a physical response to a mental stimulus. Emotions are meant to change the chemistry in every cell of our body so we can adapt to the situation at hand.
When we freely express and connect to emotion, we flow WITH life and get to participate in all the depths of experience that life has to offer.
When we try to control, suppress, or logic our way out of experiencing an emotion, major problems present.
The energy that was in motion comes to a sudden halt and gets stored in the connective tissue of various parts of our body. This stored tension can create quite a bit of pain. Pain is trying to get our attention by interrupting our life. It is telling us that something NEEDS to CHANGE. Our strategy of dealing with stress by not truly expressing emotion is not WORKING!
Aside from chronic pain, connective tissue tension creates stress on our nervous system and decreases our brain’s ability to communicate with that area. Now, disease and injury may occur as a result of the disconnection and lack of awareness.
Another issue that results from stored tension is the block that it creates to future expression of emotion, further snowballing the problem.
SO how do we express and connect to our emotions fully?
We must connect to the sensation the emotion creates in the body. We must be curious. Explore it. Ask ourselves questions. Where is this sensation? Is it moving? What does this emotion FEEL like? What does my BODY want to do? Am I letting it move freely? Do I feel uncomfortable? How can I open up and surrender more to this emotion?
Many times we try to connect with the THOUGHTS that pop up when we feel emotion. This is the mind trying to logic our way through it without actually having to experience the real emotion. We now are experiencing our CONCEPT of the emotion. And concepts are illusions, they are not reality. They are based on past information and experiences. Emotion is illogical and all about the present. It is trying to create a change in our body so we can adapt and move WITH life. And they change all the time!
The more we open up to our emotions, the more our life moves with ease. The more we allow our current emotions to stretch us, the greater range of emotions we get to feel. Life is about EXPERIENCE. There is a radical difference between joy and ECSTASY. Happiness and ELATION! We DESERVE to dive into a greater depth in life. It was meant to be RAW, REAL, and BEAUTIFUL